Death or Divorce

I once heard it said that there’s only two ways a marriage can end: death or divorce. My first reaction to that statement was one of shock.” How morbid!” I thought. But after having time for reflection I’ve come to embrace this statement as being absolutely true regardless as to its morbidity. There’s really only two ways a marriage can end. The same is true of our relationship with Christ Jesus. We’re reminded time and again of Jesus being the Bridegroom of His bride, the church. Because Jesus is the ‘Head’ of the relationship we share, He leads us in the direction best meant for us to go. Because He possesses the Words of life, we follow His leading through whatever life throws at us.

When counseling with couples who’ve grown disinterested in each other I remind them of an important truth. Love is more a decision than a feeling. In other words, each of us choose who to love, who to marry and spend the rest of our lives with. Time brings about change. Circumstances change, people change and relationships change. Change isn’t a bad thing: it’s just…different. Unfortunately, some are unable to adjust to life’s changes and throw in the towel well before the buzzer sounds. The reason God hates divorce is because of the pain, isolation and grief it causes. It’s never easy to watch someone go through divorce. In some cases it’s worse than death because they still see their mate from time to time which is a reminder of how things could have been. I’m not writing this article to beat up on divorcees. I’m reminding each of us as Christ’s bride to embrace the love we share with Him. Loving God is a choice. Either we decide to love Him or not.

If you’ve begun a life with Jesus, my encouragement to you is to finish it! Don’t walk away from the best relationship you could ever hope to have. Time brings about change. Circumstances change, people change and relationships change. We change, but Jesus NEVER changes. His love is everlasting. He is the same yesterday, today and forever.

At one time you chose to love Jesus. Remind yourself: the choice you made is greater than your feelings. Feelings come and go. Jesus came into your life when you gave your heart to Him. The only reason He’ll ‘go’ is if you tell Him to.




Have a blessed day and remember the One who gave it to you! Kevin